12 Tell-Tale Signs That You're a People-Pleaser

12 Tell-Tale Signs That You’re a People-Pleaser

Are you a people-pleaser? Being kind, generous, and flexible are wonderful qualities. But sometimes we’re too accommodating, too eager to please, and too afraid of saying “no”. There is a price to be paid for being “too nice”. Ryan is a classic people-pleaser. He’s been dating Jessie for two years and hopes to marry her. From the beginning, Jessie has been […]

Conquer your People-Pleasing Patterns

People-pleasing is a common trait among codependents. It simply means that you go to extremes to make other people happy, often at your own expense. Have you noticed that your people-pleasing causes problems for you? Well, logically we all know that it’s impossible to please others all of the time. So, we are doomed to failure when we’re constantly people-pleasing. […]

My Books and Products

Self-Help and Educational Products to Help You Know and Love Yourself Created by Sharon Martin, LCSW Setting Boundaries without Guilt: Move From Doormat to Empowerment A Workbook for People-Pleasers Are you a people pleaser? Do people take advantage of your kindness? This workbook is for all who struggle to set boundaries, are riddled with guilt when they do, and have […]

Nice Guy’s Guide to Setting Boundaries with your Ex

Setting Boundaries with Your Ex This is my second post in my Nice Guy series. It is aimed at helping “nice guys” to have happier, healthier relationships and get their needs met. Even though it’s titled Nice Guys, I think many women will relate as well. I work with a lot of “nice guys” in my psychotherapy practice. They tend […]

Let go of Good Girl Syndrome and people-pleasing #goodgirl #peoplepleasing #perfectionist #ACA

Why Being a “Good Girl” Isn’t Always a Good Thing

Let go of good girl syndrome, perfectionism, and people-pleasing and rediscover yourself! Be a good girl. Do as your told. Don’t talk back. Wait your turn. Don’t make trouble. Just sit here and be quiet. Smile and look happy. Don’t make your father angry. Where are your manners? How many times have you been told to be “good girl” or […]

Ending a Codependent Relationship Breaking up is hard to do when you are codependent #codependency #breakup

Breaking Up Is Hard to Do (Especially if You Are Codependent)

  Have you broken up with your significant other, but can’t seem to completely let go? Are you struggling to end an on-again-off-again relationship once and for all? Are you trying to figure out how to move on from a codependent relationship? It’s normal to feel conflicted about whether you should end a relationship — whether it’s a romantic relationship, […]

12 Essential Tips for Overcoming Perfectionism #perfectionism #selfacceptance #selfesteem

12 Essential Tips for Overcoming Perfectionism

  Do you have unrealistically high expectations? Do you expect perfection from yourself and others? Are you frequently disappointed that things don’t go as planned? Are you exceptionally hard on yourself? Do you feel like no matter what you do, it’s never good enough?   These are all signs of that perfectionism.   Perfectionists set impossibly high standards for themselves […]

Codependency Counseling San Jose Campbell

Counseling for Adult Children of Alcoholics

Growing up with an alcoholic or addicted parent has a lasting impact on children. Often, the full impact isn’t realized until many years later. The feelings, personality traits, and relationship patterns that you developed to cope in your dysfunctional family don’t disappear when you grow up and leave home. They keep showing up in your romantic relationships, parenting, friendships, and […]