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Thank you for connecting with me by email. I’m so glad you’re here!   As a thank you, I’ve created a free resource library just for my email subscribers. It contains worksheets, articles, journaling prompts and more — all designed to help you know and love yourself! I continue to add new resources, so be sure to check my email […]

Nice Guys Guide to Saying No #boundaries #niceguys #Codependency #people-pleaser #sayingno

Nice Guy’s Guide to Saying No

  OK, Nice Guys and Gals, you’ve decided it’s time to learn the art of saying no. Perhaps you’re a bit of a people-pleaser or perfectionist. You can absolutely learn how to say no and not feel bad about it. Saying no is an essential form of self-care. Saying no sets a boundary. Boundaries preserve our physical and emotional well-being and […]

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Dr. Sharon Martin is a recognized expert in codependency, perfectionism, boundary-setting, adult children of dysfunctional families, and related topics. Dr. Martin writes the popular column Conquering Codependency on PsychologyToday.com. Previously, she wrote regularly for Psych Central and The Good Men Project. Recent Interviews 89.3 FM (Southern CA Public Radio), AirTalk with Larry Mantle: It’s Okay to Say No to People […]

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Rediscovering Yourself

  Do you have a clear sense of who you are? We all want to understand ourselves, to have purpose, fulfillment, and belong. Teens and young adults wrestle with “finding themselves”. It is common to revisit these themes in middle age. I see many clients in their 40’s, 50’s, and 60’s who have lost themselves over the years of work and […]

Co-dependency: Answers to your Questions about Co-dependent Relationships and Co-dependent Behaviors

Co-dependency: Answers to your Questions about Co-dependent Relationships and Co-dependent Behaviors What does co-dependency mean? Codependency is a dysfunctional relationship pattern where one partner is dependent and impaired in some way and the other is constantly trying to help, change, fix, rescue. The “rescuer” derives self-esteem and purpose though helping. The emphasis on helping the partner often means the “rescuers” […]

Assertive Ways to Handle Anger (Anger Managment Part 2)

As I wrote in part 1 of this anger management series, anger is not inherently good or bad. Our goal is to learn assertive ways to handle anger, rather than aggressive. Many people tend to primarily operate as either passive or aggressive and fail to utilize the middle ground: assertive. When you are too passive, you are a “doormat”. You let everyone […]