I was immediately interested in the idea of self-compassion. I routinely hear my clients being very self-critical. They beat themselves up over large and small things. And often they don’t even know they are doing it. So, a better understanding of self-compassion was in order.
I found the book Self-Compassion by Kristin Neff helpful. It is easy to read. Her personal stories are honest and refreshing. They add a layer of vulnerability that reinforces her point that all humans make mistakes. The book contains many exercises to build self-compassion. I found many helpful. A few were not by style, but that’s to be expected in a self-help book. Her work is also backed up by research which adds credibility.
Dr. Neff explains that self-compassion is a healthier alternative to self-esteem. I accept her premise, although personally never defined self-esteem as so much of a social comparison. This section of the book was less important to me. Regardless, I found this book to be a great resource, full of useful information.
I have suggested Self-Compassion to at least 8 clients and all have had a favorable opinion. I will definitely continue to recommend this book.