how to stop trying to control your partner

How to Stop Trying to Control your Partner

  Trying to control your partner can cause real damage to your relationship. Perhaps your partner complains that you are controlling. Or maybe you recognize your controlling behaviors yourself. Either way, you can learn how to stop trying to control your partner. First, let’s take a look at why you are trying to control your partner: Many people use control […]

Is Perfectionism bogging you down?

High standards are great. Sometimes, however, we are so rigid in expectations for ourselves that we get bogged down. Needing to be perfect isn’t an asset. Perfectionism can: Impede efficiency – we spend so much time doing and re-doing, seeking perfection, that we waste a lot of time and things don’t get done Keep us stuck – sometimes we don’t do […]

How to Stop Overthinking

How to Stop Overthinking By Sharon Martin, LCSW Many of my clients struggle with anxiety. They are smart and driven and can’t “turn off” their brains. Overthinking, or ruminating, is a hallmark of anxiety. Many people find they get stuck in their worries and can’t stop thinking about the same negative things over and over. This post shares a few […]

Asking for help by Sharon Martin, LCSW

Asking for Help: It’s Hard

Asking for Help: It’s Hard by Sharon Martin, LCSW Have you been thinking about trying counseling? Have friends or family members suggested you see a counselor? What’s keeping you from asking for help? I very often see people who have been suffering for a long time before finally deciding to come to therapy. Let’s take a look at some of the […]

Spring Cleaning for Your Emotional Life

Spring Cleaning for your Emotional Life

Spring is a time of new beginnings, growth, hope. It’s also the time of year to clean out the garage and closets, discard what’s broken or obsolete. Perhaps you’ll find some treasures among the junk as well. But when’s the last time you cleaned out your emotional life? Things can pile up in our emotional life as well. Sometimes you’re […]

6 Ways to Decrease Anxiety

I see clients struggling with anxiety everyday in my practice. It is one of the most common mental health problems. The good news is, it’s very treatable. Below are some basic ways to reduce anxiety symptoms. 1. Cut down on caffeine (eliminate completely, if you can) – Caffeine is a stimulant that increases anxiety in many people. 2. Exercise – A […]