Fear of Commitment Do you have a girlfriend or boyfriend who won’t commit? If you’ve never experienced this yourself, chances are that you’ve had a frustrated friend who wants to know: “How long should I wait for him to commit?”. I recently contributed to a column on the website Love Evolve and Thrive about how to cope with fear […]
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How to Cope with Election Stress When You’re a Highly Sensitive Person
The election is stressing me out! I think we’re all ready for this presidential election to be over. It’s deteriorated into mudslinging, polarization, divisiveness, hate, intolerance, and plain old immaturity. And it seems like it’s getting worse every week. If you’re a highly sensitive person, as I am, you feel things deeply. You’re not only sensitive to criticism […]
What Causes Codependency?
What Causes Codependency? Once people recognize that they have codependent traits, they often begin to wonder where these codependent tendencies came from. Why are some people susceptible to codependency in their adult relationships? What causes codependency? Why is it so hard to break free from codependent relationships? While the answers aren’t the same for everyone, for most people it begins […]
4 Ways to Curb Negative Self-Talk and Learn to Treat Yourself Better
We talk to ourselves all day long. We comment, critique, and chastise our every move. From the big to the small – every decision and action gets scrutinized by our inner-critic. For most of us, it’s harsh. Much harsher than what we say to anyone else. Where does this negative self-talk come from? Sometimes people tell me it’s very […]
Compare and Despair: How Losing Weight Made Me Feel Fatter
Compare and despair: when comparing ourselves to others makes us feel worth. This is so often the case when we compare. Learn to move away from comparison and toward self-acceptance.
Fear of Flying? Try These 7 Strategies to Calm Your Nerves
Fear of flying is a common form of anxiety. The good news is that like most things, the more often you fly, the more natural it seems. But…easier said than done, so I’ve put together 7 tips for managing your fear of flying.
New Counseling Office in Campbell
Welcome to my new counseling office in Campbell! I’ve moved my psychotherapy practice about a mile down the road from San Jose to Campbell. The new office is light and bright and much bigger. I’m excited to share this upgraded space with you! My therapy office is now located at 901 Campisi Way, Suite […]
Are You an Enabler? Understanding Codependency vs. Helping
Codependency isn’t just amplified helping. One of the big misconceptions about codependency is that it’s simply being super, duper nice. It’s true that most codependents are kind and generous to a fault. You typically struggle to say “no” and set limits. As a result, people take advantage of your desire to help. But codependency is much more than this. Codependency is a […]