I recently had a wonderful conversation with Nicole Burgess, LMFT, the host of the Launching Your Daughter Podcast, about ways parents and teens can embrace imperfection.
Category Archives: perfectionism
Podcast Interview: Understanding Perfectionism
Perfectionism is a shield. It’s an attempt to cover up your flaws and missteps. It’s like armor that you put on to protect yourself from criticism.
Rearranging the dishwasher and other signs you are a control freak
Are you guilty of rearranging those dirty dishes in the dishwasher? Well, I am too. We all know there is only one proper way to load the dishwasher. And it’s your way! If you rearrange the dishwasher, you may be a control freak. I use the term “control freak” loosely to mean anyone who has particularly high standards and wants […]
Perfectionist Habits
I recently wrote an article for Psych Central titled The Top 10 Confessions of a Recovering Perfectionist. In it, I revealed ten of my perfectionist habits. I’ve worked long and hard on overcoming perfectionism. And I still continue to challenge that negative internal voice that says “it’s not good enough”. I’ve learned to let go of a […]
If I show you my flaws….
If I showed you my flaws If I couldn’t be strong Tell me honestly, would you still love me the same? (from Locked Away by Rock City, featuring Adam Levine) If I show you my flaws, will you still love me? That’s really what we’re all afraid of, isn’t it? If I’m not perfect… If I make a mistake… If […]
The Deadly Side of Perfectionism
I am pleased to introduce you to Carolyn Ferreira, Psy.D. She has written a fantastic guest blog for us about the link between perfectionism and suicide. I met Carolyn online and was immediately drawn to her insightful posts and our shared interest in overcoming perfectionism. Carolyn Ferreira, PsyD, is a Licensed Clinical Psychologist, author, and mental health blogger. She […]
How to Stop Procrastinating by Changing your Thinking
There are lots of great tips out there on how to stop procrastinating: Start with the hardest task first Set a timer and do it for 5 minutes Eliminate distractions Enlist help Break the task down into small pieces Use an accountability partner These are all helpful approaches. In this article, I want to focus on how our negative thinking […]
Embrace Your Imperfections and Thrive
Embrace your Imperfections and Thrive by Sharon Martin, LCSW Does it sound counter-intuitive to embrace your imperfections and thrive at the same time? I think embracing your imperfections is actually key to thriving. One of my all time favorite quotes from Carl Rogers speaks to this idea: “The curious paradox is that when I accept myself just as I am, then […]