“Why is my childhood still affecting me? Shouldn’t I be over it by now?” Amy, aged 37, asked me at her first therapy session. “I feel like I’m complaining,” she said ashamedly. “I’m sure other people have bigger problems — real problems. I feel silly coming to therapy to talk about getting over painful childhood experiences from twenty years […]
In my previous post, What’s my Attachment Style and Why Does it Matter?, I gave you an overview of the three primary attachment styles (secure, anxious, and avoidant) and how attachment styles become the blueprint for our adult romantic relationships. Securely attached people tend to have happier, longer lasting relationships built on trust. They feel comfortable expressing their […]
Approximately 25% of us have an Avoidant Attachment Style. In my earlier post, What’s my Attachment Style and Why Does it Matter?, I explained the three primary attachment styles (secure, anxious, and avoidant) and how understanding your attachment style can help you have happier and healthier adult romantic relationships. Securely attached people tend to have happy, long-lasting […]
People-pleasers are sometimes described as “doormats” because they let everyone walk all over them. You can learn how to set boundaries without guilt, communicate assertively, and respect yourself and others.
Sometimes we don’t realize that our care giving has crossed the line into codependency or unhealthy care taking. It’s not always easy to see when our behavior is no longer supporting a healthy self and a healthy relationship.
My clients often ask me: “What is a healthy relationship?”. This is a great question because it’s not obvious or instinctual to many, especially if you were abused as a child or you’ve witnessed or experienced abuse in a romantic relationship. If you’ve had a history of abuse or other trauma, it can be hard to know what a healthy relationship […]
7 Days of Relationship Tips Interested in strengthening your relationship? In honor of Valentine’s Day, I will be adding a new relationship tip everyday this week. I hope you enjoy and put them into practice!
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