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How to Resolve Arguments with your Partner

I have been counseling couples and families for twenty years (feeling a bit old saying that!). Communication problems are common. It’s amazing how easy it is to miscommunicate and how make assumptions. Here are some tips for how to resolve arguments that I frequently use in my psychotherapy practice. Remember you are “on the same team”. The goal is not […]

How to Breakup with Integrity

Mature Ways to Breakup I sometimes hear breakup horror stories. We’re all familiar with the breakup via text, the blame game, and plain old avoidance (ghosting). There are more mature ways to breakup with your partner when things have gone south. Yes, it’s harder, but integrity isn’t something you can have only when it’s easy. First, start with empathy. I know this […]

how to stop trying to control your partner

How to Stop Trying to Control your Partner

  Trying to control your partner can cause real damage to your relationship. Perhaps your partner complains that you are controlling. Or maybe you recognize your controlling behaviors yourself. Either way, you can learn how to stop trying to control your partner. First, let’s take a look at why you are trying to control your partner: Many people use control […]

Conquer your People-Pleasing Patterns

People-pleasing is a common trait among codependents. It simply means that you go to extremes to make other people happy, often at your own expense. Have you noticed that your people-pleasing causes problems for you? Well, logically we all know that it’s impossible to please others all of the time. So, we are doomed to failure when we’re constantly people-pleasing. […]

Relationship Tips

7 Days of Relationship Tips Interested in strengthening your relationship? In honor of Valentine’s Day, I will be adding a new relationship tip everyday this week. I hope you enjoy and put them into practice!

Relationship Repair: Getting Over a Breakup

  We all know getting over a breakup is tough. It can take months to years to recover. New research by Grace M. Larson and David A. Sbarra sheds light on how to recover. [1. G. Larson & D. Sbarra, Participating in Research on Romantic Breakups Promotes Emotional Recovery via Changes in Self-Concept Clarity. Social Psychological and Personality Science online on […]

Co-dependency: Answers to your Questions about Co-dependent Relationships and Co-dependent Behaviors

Co-dependency: Answers to your Questions about Co-dependent Relationships and Co-dependent Behaviors What does co-dependency mean? Codependency is a dysfunctional relationship pattern where one partner is dependent and impaired in some way and the other is constantly trying to help, change, fix, rescue. The “rescuer” derives self-esteem and purpose though helping. The emphasis on helping the partner often means the “rescuers” […]

Understanding Co-dependent Reltaionships

Understanding Co-dependent Relationships by Sharon Martin, LCSW Co-dependent relationships are out of balance. Co-dependents are extremely caring people, but codependency goes beyond wanting to help others. Co-dependents want to fix others. Co-dependents derive self-esteem and feel valued primarily through the helping role. They, therefore, become attached to people who have problems of various sorts and need to be taken care of.