Highly Sensitive People and Perfectionism #HSP #perfectionist

Highly Sensitive People and Perfectionism

Growing up as a highly sensitive person (HSP), I often felt flawed, inferior, and overwhelmed. I was told I was too sensitive and quiet, that I should speak up more, and make more friends. Like many HSPs, I was anxious at school because of the overstimulating noise, bright fluorescent lights, crowded hallways, and pressure to be like everyone else. I […]

We Repeat What We Don't Repair #dysfunctionalfamily #codependency #trauma #sanjose #counseling

We Repeat What We Don’t Repair

Do you seem to repeat the same dysfunctional relationship patterns – even though they leave you frustrated and hurt? Why do some people end up in one codependent relationship after another? Why does a woman with an emotionally distant mother repeat the same pattern with her own children? Why do so many adult children of alcoholics marry alcoholics? And why […]

Codependency and Perfectionism

3 Keys to Recovering from Codependency and Perfectionism

  “I’m so busy being a wife, mother, daughter, and nurse that I don’t even know who I am anymore. I’m always taking care of others and trying to keep them happy. I’m not even sure what I like, believe, and value.” “I’m really self-critical. It’s hard for me to accept compliments. I dwell on my mistakes and imperfections.” “I […]

Stop being a control freak and calm your need for control #controlfreak #anxiety #control #codependency #stress #perfectionism

7 Ways to Stop Being a Control Freak

  Most people appreciate the advantages of an efficient routine and having things go according to plan. But some of us get highly stressed, upset, or angry when life takes an unexpected turn – whether it’s an accident on your way to work or something as minor as your kids leaving a big mess in the kitchen. Yes, some of […]

Books for Adult Children of Alcoholics #ACA #recovery #codependency #counseling #trauma #dysfunctional #family #selfhelp #book #review

Therapist Recommended Books for Adult Children of Alcoholics

This post contains affiliate links.   After my earlier blog post about growing up in an alcoholic family, I got a lot of requests for additional reading suggestions. We are fortunate that there are many helpful books for Adult Children of Alcoholics (ACOAs) on healing codependency, trauma, and relationship challenges. Below are some of my reading suggestions for adults who […]

Ending a Codependent Relationship Breaking up is hard to do when you are codependent #codependency #breakup

Breaking Up Is Hard to Do (Especially if You Are Codependent)

  Have you broken up with your significant other, but can’t seem to completely let go? Are you struggling to end an on-again-off-again relationship once and for all? Are you trying to figure out how to move on from a codependent relationship? It’s normal to feel conflicted about whether you should end a relationship — whether it’s a romantic relationship, […]

12 Essential Tips for Overcoming Perfectionism #perfectionism #selfacceptance #selfesteem

12 Essential Tips for Overcoming Perfectionism

  Do you have unrealistically high expectations? Do you expect perfection from yourself and others? Are you frequently disappointed that things don’t go as planned? Are you exceptionally hard on yourself? Do you feel like no matter what you do, it’s never good enough?   These are all signs of that perfectionism.   Perfectionists set impossibly high standards for themselves […]