Moms Deserve Self-Compassion

Moms Deserve Self-Compassion

Motherhood is a blessing. It was a long and difficult journey for me to become a mother and I’m so grateful for the opportunity to mother my three not-so-little-ones. But being a mother is hard. Really hard. And we make it harder by setting impossibly high standards for ourselves. In May we celebrate Mother’s Day in the United States. May […]

Understanding the Need to Please #peoplepleasing #codependency

Understanding the Need to Please

    Do you have a strong need to please others? When was the last time you told someone “No, I can’t help you with that” or “I have a different opinion”? It can feel risky – emotionally vulnerable – to set limits or assert our needs or opinions (especially if we know they are different than other people’s). Of […]

A Therapists' Tips for Coping with Coronavirus Anxiety

Tips from a Therapist for Coping with Coronavirus Anxiety

  Life feels scary and out of control for a lot of us due to the coronavirus outbreak. Our normal activities are disrupted. People are panic shopping. Schools are closed. Things are changing quickly and that’s disconcerting. We don’t know what to expect because we’ve never experienced anything like this before. In an effort to help you calm your anxiety […]

The problem with unsolicited advice and how to avoid it

The Problem with Unsolicited Advice and How to Avoid It

    Are you guilty of giving unsolicited advice? Advice is usually intended to be helpful. And many of us (myself included) offer guidance and suggestions, even tell others what they should do, without being asked.  Regardless of our intentions, giving advice that isn’t wanted, can be annoying, intrusive, and even manipulative. In this article, we’ll explore why we give […]

How Codependents Can Stop Rescuing and Enabling

Stop Rescuing and Enabling: Tips for Codependents

Learn to stop rescuing and enabling.   Codependents are often caretakers – which seems like a great quality except we tend to do it at our own expense and often when help isn’t wanted or needed. The result is a codependent pattern of rescuing, resenting, and regretting.   What is codependent rescuing? Rescuing is an unhealthy version of helping. It […]

6 Signs that You Need to Say No More Often

6 Signs that You Need to Say “No”

  Annie constantly feels overwhelmed by all she has to do. There are so many competing demands on her time – family obligations, social invitations, work deadlines, household chores, community events she’d like to attend, and the ever-elusive self-care. She hates to disappoint people, so even though she’s stretched too thin already, she finds herself saying yes to every request, […]

Holiday Boundaries

Holiday Boundaries: Reduce Stress, Reclaim Joy

  Boundaries for the holidays. You don’t really need my permission to say no to any of the things that add stress or decrease happiness, but I’m going to give it to you just in case it helps. You have permission to set boundaries and say no to everything that doesn’t bring you joy this holiday season. You don’t even […]

Freedom and Healing from Toxic Relationships

Freedom and Healing from Toxic Relationships

    A toxic or codependent relationship can make you feel trapped, small, and deficient. It can feel like an anchor weighing you down, suffocating you. People who grew up in dysfunctional families, with parents who lacked boundaries, abused drugs or alcohol, or suffered from mental illness, develop a set of coping skills that helped them deal with the chaos […]