The effects of growing up in a dysfunctional family

The Effects of Growing Up in a Dysfunctional Family

    If you grew up in a family with a chemically dependent, mentally ill, or abusive parent, you know how hard it is — and you know that everyone in the family is affected. Over time, the family begins to revolve around maintaining the status quo – the dysfunction. Rigid family rules and roles develop in dysfunctional families that […]

Journal Prompts to Relieve Stress and Anxiety by Sharon Martin, San Jose therapist and counselor

15 Journal Prompts to Help Relieve Stress and Anxiety

Everyone experiences stress – the tension and pressure of too many demands on our time and resources (both emotional and material).   Even if you don’t meet the clinical criteria for an anxiety disorder, I’m sure you’ve experienced some of the hallmark symptoms from time to time: uncontrollable worry trouble concentrating insomnia rumination or obsessive thoughts muscle tension stomach aches, […]

Boundaries The Solution for Feeling Overwhelmed

Boundaries: The Solution for Feeling Overwhelmed

  Jill feels overwhelmed. Jill has been working 12-hour days all week. She’s barely seen her son, let alone spent any quality time with him, which leaves her feeling guilty. Her 11-year-old is nagging her to have three friends over to watch a movie on Friday night, but Jill is exhausted. It’s Mother’s Day weekend and she still hasn’t gotten […]

How Codependents Can Focus on Coping not Controlling. Managing anxiety for codependents.

Codependency and Anxiety: Focus on Coping not Controlling

  If you have codependent traits and you’re feeling highly stressed or anxious, you’re not alone – and this article is for you. Codependents are like sponges. We absorb other people’s problems, feelings, and energy. This takes a big toll on us and leaves many of us with high levels of chronic stress and anxiety.   What is anxiety? Anxiety […]

Detach from Difficult People

Detach from Difficult People without Justifying, Arguing, Defending, and Explaining

  Are you familiar with the acronym JADE? It’s a reminder to not justify, argue, defend, and explain. If you’re you repeatedly drawn into conversations or arguments that seem to go nowhere, feel compelled to respond to accusations that you know are false, or feel like you have to justify your behavior or choices to a “difficult” family member, please read […]

Understanding Anxiety and Codependency

Anxiety and Codependency

This post contains affiliate links.   Beneath codependency there’s often anxiety When you live in a high conflict, unpredictable or chaotic situation, it’s not surprising that you’re tense, worried, and “walking on eggshells”. Understandably, many codependents suffer from anxiety. And even if you no longer live in a tense environment, codependency is usually born from trauma which can contribute to […]

Woman and man in an unhealthy relationship. Learn More About Codependency.

Learn More About Codependency (Podcast Interview)

  I was recently interviewed by Lourdes Viado, Ph.D., the host of the popular podcast Women In-Depth, all about codependency.   The Women In-Depth podcast “…goes beneath the surface and takes a deeper look at relationships, motherhood, self-acceptance, authenticity, aging, healing, suffering, loss, and other areas connected to the emotional and psychological well-being of women.” I personally find it’s a […]