Guided Meditation to Heal Codependency

Guided Meditation to Heal Codependency

Changing our long-standing thought and behavior patterns can be a long journey. Different approaches work for different people. In my psychotherapy practice, I try to provide a variety of strategies to promote self-care and compassion. For some, a guided meditation, such as this one, can be a helpful tool in healing from codependency and learning to love yourself.   What […]

Why Your Loved One Getting Sober Doesn't Solve Your Problems. Codependents fantasize that their loved one getting sober or treatment will fix or solve their problems or save their marriage

Why Your Loved One Getting Sober Doesn’t Solve Your Problems

  Mary and Dan have been married for 10 years and for nine of them Dan has been done tried everything in his power to help Mary get and stay sober.  He’s driven her to the emergency room, called rehab facilities, participated in the family program at the three recovery programs she’s attended, given her lists of therapists, begged her […]

Is it a codependent friendship? Learn the signs of codependency in friendships and how to repair your friendship and relationship.

What is a Codependent Friendship?

Friends play an important role in our lives. A friend is a trusted confidant, someone who “gets” you like no one else, and a source of fun and solace. A true friend has your back and supports you through life’s ups and downs. But friendships, like any other relationship, aren’t always healthy. Not all friendships are mutually supportive and satisfying. […]

Doing Less and Embracing Imperfection. If you're a high achiever, perfectionist, workaholic, or Type A personality, support and solutions are available through therapy with Sharon Martin, LCSW in San Jose.

High Achievers Can Build Stronger Relationships by Doing Less and Embracing Imperfection

Here in Silicon Valley, we’re surrounded by high achievers. It seems like everyone’s just launched a start-up company, bought a new Tesla, or their kid got into an Ivy League college. All this achieving is great – it drives innovation, solves problems, and fuels our economy – but it can also take a toll on individuals and their relationships. I […]

How to Use Mindfulness to Stop being a Perfectionist. San Jose therapist Sharon Martin, LCSW, uses mindfulness to combat perfectionism. Mindfulness is an effective way to stop worries, anxiety, and pressure to achieve and perfect.

How to Use Mindfulness to Stop being a Perfectionist

  Perfectionism can make it hard for you to enjoy your life. Are you ready to stop being a perfectionist and start enjoying your life? Do your exacting standards and quest for perfection actually get in the way of happy and fulfilling relationships and experiences?   Perfectionism is an unhealthy and unforgiving striving for achievement. Perfectionists want things to be […]

How to Set Boundaries with Negative . Do you know some negative people or energy vampires? Setting boundaries is the key to managing difficult relationships with people who annoy you and deplete your energy.

How to Set Boundaries with Negative People

  Negative people deplete your energy Negative people are like “energy vampires”. I first encountered the term energy vampire when I read Judith Orloff’s book Emotional Freedom (affiliate link) a few years ago. No matter what you call them, we’ve all encountered them. Energy vampires are those people who exude negative energy, drain you emotionally, and leave you empty and annoyed. […]