Happily Imperfect

I’m happy to announce my new blog on Psych Central called Happily Imperfect. I’m excited to reach even more people through my writing. Happily Imperfect focuses on helping perfectionists and people-pleasers develop self-acceptance and self-compassion.  While perfectionism may seem like a good quality, in reality it causes unrealistic expectations, relationship conflict, self-criticism, stress and anxiety, procrastination and sucks the joy out […]

Perfectionist Habits

  I recently wrote an article for Psych Central titled The Top 10 Confessions of a Recovering Perfectionist. In it, I revealed ten of my perfectionist habits.     I’ve worked long and hard on overcoming perfectionism. And I still continue to challenge that negative internal voice that says “it’s not good enough”. I’ve learned to let go of a […]

If I show you my flaws….

If I showed you my flaws If I couldn’t be strong Tell me honestly, would you still love me the same? (from Locked Away by Rock City, featuring Adam Levine) If I show you my flaws, will you still love me? That’s really what we’re all afraid of, isn’t it? If I’m not perfect… If I make a mistake… If […]

Nice Guys Guide to Saying No #boundaries #niceguys #Codependency #people-pleaser #sayingno

Nice Guy’s Guide to Saying No

  OK, Nice Guys and Gals, you’ve decided it’s time to learn the art of saying no. Perhaps you’re a bit of a people-pleaser or perfectionist. You can absolutely learn how to say no and not feel bad about it. Saying no is an essential form of self-care. Saying no sets a boundary. Boundaries preserve our physical and emotional well-being and […]

Are you a Sleep Procrastinator?

I often stay up too late. There is always one more email to write, one more dish to wash, one more episode of Parenthood to watch. Like a lot of parents, I crave some time to myself after the kids go to bed. I am a sleep procrastinator. I wasn’t actually aware that sleep procrastination is a “real thing” until I […]

Parenting Teens: Don’t Forget Their Strengths

It’s so very easy to focus on all the challenges of parenting teenagers. Even the research shows that teens are often moody, impulsive, and have poor judgment and planning. We all know that those teenage years are stressful and awkward beyond belief for both teens and parents. Teens often get a bad rap. After recently writing a post about how to cope if […]

30 Ways to De-Stress Quickly

We all need a toolbox of strategies for managing stress. You can de-stress quickly with these simple ideas. These ideas can help you de-stress in less than 10 minutes and most are things that both teens and adults can do.   I find it’s helpful to have a variety of stress management strategies. You will need to use different strategies […]

How to Cope if your Teenager is Arrested

Parenting Teens: How to Cope if your Teenager is Arrested First let me say that I am not an attorney. And, therefore, this article does not provide legal advice. If you need an attorney, please consult one in your area. I am a psychotherapist. I have spent 20 years working with teenagers and families in various capacities – homeless and […]