Do Something Nice Day

  October 5th is National Do Something Nice Day. In honor of this day for doing good deeds, I made a short video for you with some ideas and a challenge.   Please share your acts of kindness in the comments and let us know how it felt to do something nice today. Have a kind day!           […]

Nice Guy’s Guide to Setting Boundaries with your Ex

Setting Boundaries with Your Ex This is my second post in my Nice Guy series. It is aimed at helping “nice guys” to have happier, healthier relationships and get their needs met. Even though it’s titled Nice Guys, I think many women will relate as well. I work with a lot of “nice guys” in my psychotherapy practice. They tend […]

Parenting Teens: Parent Survival Tips

  I always say: Parenting is like a marathon. You’re in it for the long haul. Day to day in the trenches is hard. I’m right there with you as I have two teens myself. Some days are great and some day I just want to run away. I put together a few tips to help you through. Parenting Teens […]

Happily Imperfect

I’m happy to announce my new blog on Psych Central called Happily Imperfect. I’m excited to reach even more people through my writing. Happily Imperfect focuses on helping perfectionists and people-pleasers develop self-acceptance and self-compassion.  While perfectionism may seem like a good quality, in reality it causes unrealistic expectations, relationship conflict, self-criticism, stress and anxiety, procrastination and sucks the joy out […]

Perfectionist Habits

  I recently wrote an article for Psych Central titled The Top 10 Confessions of a Recovering Perfectionist. In it, I revealed ten of my perfectionist habits.     I’ve worked long and hard on overcoming perfectionism. And I still continue to challenge that negative internal voice that says “it’s not good enough”. I’ve learned to let go of a […]

If I show you my flaws….

If I showed you my flaws If I couldn’t be strong Tell me honestly, would you still love me the same? (from Locked Away by Rock City, featuring Adam Levine) If I show you my flaws, will you still love me? That’s really what we’re all afraid of, isn’t it? If I’m not perfect… If I make a mistake… If […]

Nice Guys Guide to Saying No #boundaries #niceguys #Codependency #people-pleaser #sayingno

Nice Guy’s Guide to Saying No

  OK, Nice Guys and Gals, you’ve decided it’s time to learn the art of saying no. Perhaps you’re a bit of a people-pleaser or perfectionist. You can absolutely learn how to say no and not feel bad about it. Saying no is an essential form of self-care. Saying no sets a boundary. Boundaries preserve our physical and emotional well-being and […]

Are you a Sleep Procrastinator?

I often stay up too late. There is always one more email to write, one more dish to wash, one more episode of Parenthood to watch. Like a lot of parents, I crave some time to myself after the kids go to bed. I am a sleep procrastinator. I wasn’t actually aware that sleep procrastination is a “real thing” until I […]