Does Meditation Work? (Results of my Meditation Challenge)

A couple weeks ago I started my meditation challenge to answer the question: does meditation work? Specifically, I wanted to see if a small, but consistent amount of meditation would help me regain focus and calm. This is a short (2 minute) video that explains what meditation is and how it helps. As you may remember, I am meditating with Muse, the brain […]

The Deadly Side of Perfectionism

I am pleased to introduce you to Carolyn Ferreira, Psy.D. She has written a fantastic guest blog for us about the link between perfectionism and suicide. I met Carolyn online and was immediately drawn to her insightful posts and our shared interest in overcoming perfectionism.   Carolyn Ferreira, PsyD, is a Licensed Clinical Psychologist, author, and mental health blogger. She […]

How to Resolve Arguments with your Partner #communication #arguments #fairfighting #respect #marriage

How to Resolve Arguments with your Partner

I have been counseling couples and families for twenty years (feeling a bit old saying that!). Communication problems are common. It’s amazing how easy it is to miscommunicate and how make assumptions. Here are some tips for how to resolve arguments that I frequently use in my psychotherapy practice. Remember you are “on the same team”. The goal is not […]

My meditation challenge

My Meditation Challenge

I have a confession. I’ve been really unfocused lately. My brain seems to be spinning. I’m busy and working a lot and yet my unfinished work pile just seems to get bigger. I feel inefficient, scattered, unproductive. Anyone else feeling the same way?   So, I’ve decided to dial up my meditation practice. I’ve believed in meditation for a long time, […]

Tips for Moderating Drinking

Moderating Drinking Alcohol is a common way for Americans to deal with stress. We hear a lot about denial as a barrier to change among addicts. I actually often see people in my practice who are quite insightful about their drinking. They come to me looking for help to moderate what they see as an unhealthy behavior.     I do […]

How to Breakup with Integrity

Mature Ways to Breakup I sometimes hear breakup horror stories. We’re all familiar with the breakup via text, the blame game, and plain old avoidance (ghosting). There are more mature ways to breakup with your partner when things have gone south. Yes, it’s harder, but integrity isn’t something you can have only when it’s easy. First, start with empathy. I know this […]

How to Stop Procrastinating by Changing your Thinking

There are lots of great tips out there on how to stop procrastinating: Start with the hardest task first Set a timer and do it for 5 minutes Eliminate distractions Enlist help Break the task down into small pieces Use an accountability partner These are all helpful approaches. In this article, I want to focus on how our negative thinking […]

Signs You Are an Overthinker

Signs You Are an Overthinker

Wondering if you are an overthinker? Overthinking is common among anxious, perfectionists. It is obsessive thinking or ruminating. Signs you are an overthinker include: second-guessing analyzing everything catastrophizing or expecting the worst insomnia trouble making decisions avoid decision-making and prefer someone else does it regret can’t let things go take things personally even when they aren’t perfectionism self-criticism self-doubt and […]