Embrace Your Imperfections and Thrive

Embrace your Imperfections and Thrive by Sharon Martin, LCSW Does it sound counter-intuitive to embrace your imperfections and thrive at the same time? I think embracing your imperfections is actually key to thriving. One of my all time favorite quotes from Carl Rogers speaks to this idea: “The curious paradox is that when I accept myself just as I am, then […]

Crying is Good for You | Counseling | San Jose

Crying is Good for You by Sharon Martin, LCSW   When is the last time you had a good cry? I cried just last Sunday. And you know what? I felt better afterward. Crying is good for you. It is a healthy outlet for feelings. But many people resist. Crying in the therapy office is an interesting thing. Some people cry […]

What are Healthy Boundaries?

What are Healthy Boundaries?

According to Merriam Webster Dictionary, a boundary is “a point or limit that indicates where two things become different”. It is where I stop and you begin. A boundary is a line or space between two people. Healthy boundaries are important to our physical and emotional health. Boundaries provide protection. If boundaries are weak, we are vulnerable. And if boundaries […]

What contributes to anxiety?

What Contributes to Anxiety?: 6 Things You Need to Stop Doing When You Are Anxious

Some of the hallmarks of anxiety are uncontrollable worry, over-thinking, and ruminating. If you suffer from anxiety, you may wonder what contributes to anxiety. These six behaviors can exacerbate anxiety, so you may find it helpful to make changes in these areas.   1. Watching the news: The news is mostly bad news. When I watched the 11 O’clock news […]

10 Signs you are a Perfectionist

  Perfectionism can be a serious barrier to success and happiness at work and in personal relationships. We might think having high standards is a good thing. However, perfectionists are so harsh and rigid in their thinking and behavior that it can become a problem. Here are 10 signs you are a perfectionist to help you get started. High expectations […]

How to Help your Infertile Friend on Mother’s Day

Mother’s Day is hard – really hard – when you’re wanting to have a baby, but can’t. If you care enough about your friend, sibling, or coworker, to look up answers on the internet, you’re half way there. The fact that you are trying to help and recognize that infertility is hard is amazing! And because I’ve been through infertility myself, […]

9 Morning Habits for a Happier Day #morninghabits #happyday

9 Morning Habits for a Happier Day

We’re looking for simple ways to increase our happiness. Our morning habits set the tone for the day. Successful, happy people make time for healthy, centering routines to start their day. Get up early: I always feel better when I get up earlier. I seem to get more done all day long. Exercise: Exercising in the morning ramps up our metabolism […]

10 Simple Tips to Deal with Perfectionism

10 Simple Tips to Deal with Perfectionism

Striving for excellence is a good thing. Perfectionism, however, is an unhealthy and unrelenting expectation that you’ll excel at everything, you’ll never fail or make a mistake, that you’re flawless.  When you expect the impossible from yourself and others, you’re bound to be unhappy. When you expect yourself to be perfect, you make your self-worth contingent upon your accomplishments. This […]