Book Review: The Power of Habit

Book Review: The Power of Habit The Power of Habit: Why We Do What We Do in Life and Business written by Charles Duhigg is an easy and enjoyable read. It is full of engaging case studies, including the habits behind the success of popular businesses such as Starbucks and Target. Wondering how AA helps alcoholics change their drinking habits or […]

How to Succeed in Therapy

Have you been in therapy? Are you wondering how to succeed in therapy? After nearly twenty years as a therapist, I’ve put together my top 5 tips for helping you achieve your therapy goals. 1. Effort Like most things in life, you get out of therapy as much as you put into it. Effort seems like a given, but many people […]

how to stop trying to control your partner

How to Stop Trying to Control your Partner

  Trying to control your partner can cause real damage to your relationship. Perhaps your partner complains that you are controlling. Or maybe you recognize your controlling behaviors yourself. Either way, you can learn how to stop trying to control your partner. First, let’s take a look at why you are trying to control your partner: Many people use control […]

Self-Help Book Recommendations from a Therapist

My Top 5 Self-Help Book Recommendations by Sharon Martin, LCSW I’ve read so many good books as part of my Personal Growth Group, that it seems overdue for an updated list of recommended reading. Below are five self-help or psychology books that I find myself recommending over and over. Daring Greatly by B. Brown – Daring Greatly is Brene Brown’s most recent […]

Conquer your People-Pleasing Patterns

People-pleasing is a common trait among codependents. It simply means that you go to extremes to make other people happy, often at your own expense. Have you noticed that your people-pleasing causes problems for you? Well, logically we all know that it’s impossible to please others all of the time. So, we are doomed to failure when we’re constantly people-pleasing. […]

Is Perfectionism bogging you down?

High standards are great. Sometimes, however, we are so rigid in expectations for ourselves that we get bogged down. Needing to be perfect isn’t an asset. Perfectionism can: Impede efficiency – we spend so much time doing and re-doing, seeking perfection, that we waste a lot of time and things don’t get done Keep us stuck – sometimes we don’t do […]

Stop Wasting Your Time on Positive Affirmations

Stop Wasting your Time on Positive Affirmations

Please stop wasting your time standing in front of the mirror reciting positive affirmations. That’s right, affirmations don’t work. Most of us remember the Stuart Smalley character on Saturday Night Live and his comical affirmations. They seem like such a good idea. If only we could just say nice things to ourselves and they would become reality! Well, that’s a […]

Help! My teenager is acting out

Have you been wondering, is my teenager normal? Is s/he depressed? Is s/he using drugs? Am I a good parent? Parents often come to me when their teenager is acting out. Sometimes it’s hard to distinguish normal teenage behavior from signs of depression, anxiety, trauma, or other maladjustment. Some warning signs include: substance use, truancy, failing grades, running away, defiance, moodiness, self-harm, […]