How to Stop Overthinking

How to Stop Overthinking By Sharon Martin, LCSW Many of my clients struggle with anxiety. They are smart and driven and can’t “turn off” their brains. Overthinking, or ruminating, is a hallmark of anxiety. Many people find they get stuck in their worries and can’t stop thinking about the same negative things over and over. This post shares a few […]

Parenting Teens: Pick Your Battles

Parenting Teens: Pick your Battles Having high expectations for your child is great. Expecting perfection is not. Parents: getting on your kid’s case about everything is a waste of your time, and more importantly, going to make your child feel bad (incompetent, ugly, ashamed). How would you feel if your husband rolled his eyes when he saw your new outfit? How […]

Remembering Your Loved One's Death Anniversary

Ways to Remeber Your Loved One’s Death Anniversary

  By the time the first anniversary of your loved one’s death approaches, you’ve made it through a host of tough days. It is important to find ways to remember your loved one’s death anniversary. You may find that your grief and anxiety build in the days and weeks before the anniversary. For some, the anticipation is worse than the […]

Setting Family Rules for Teens

Parenting Teens: Setting Family Rules

Parenting Teens: Setting Family Rules We all know that clear rules and expectations are important for children of all ages. Teenagers are still learning how to make good decisions and control their impulses. So, how do you go about setting rules and expectations? I suggest starting with 3-5 rules. Generally, older teens require fewer rules than younger teens. Too many rules […]

Why Does My Teenager Make Such Bad Decisions?

Are you wondering why your teenager makes such bad decisions? Well, you aren’t alone! Teenagers are not known for their good decision making skills. Let’s face it, most of us did some pretty stupid stuff when we were teens, too. There are many things that work against teens when it comes to decision making: Lack of life experience Belief they are invincible […]

Asking for help by Sharon Martin, LCSW

Asking for Help: It’s Hard

Asking for Help: It’s Hard by Sharon Martin, LCSW Have you been thinking about trying counseling? Have friends or family members suggested you see a counselor? What’s keeping you from asking for help? I very often see people who have been suffering for a long time before finally deciding to come to therapy. Let’s take a look at some of the […]

Book Review Attached

Book Review: Attached

This article contains affiliate links. Purchasing through my link supports this blog and doesn’t cost you anything!   I recently read the book Attached: The New Science of Adult Attachment and How it Can Help You Find and Keep Love and it immediately became one of my most recommended books.   Attachment Theory that’s easy to apply The authors, Amir […]

Break Free From Codependency

Break Free from Codependency

Break Free from Codependency At the heart of codependency is a lack of valuing one’s self. People who are codependent value others more than themselves and this contributes to relationship problems. Their lives revolve around helping, fixing or saving others at their own expense. Relationships become very unbalanced.