Why won't my loved one stop using drugs and alcohol? #substanceabuse #addiction #codependency

Why won’t my loved one stop using drugs and alcohol?

    What is addiction? If your loved one continues to use drugs or alcohol despite negative consequences (marital problems, problems at work or school, DUI, financial or health problems), s/he is likely physically and emotionally dependent. This means that the body and brain will react with a strong, negative response if they don’t continue to use substances. If you’ve never been […]

Assertive Ways to Handle Anger (Anger Managment Part 2)

As I wrote in part 1 of this anger management series, anger is not inherently good or bad. Our goal is to learn assertive ways to handle anger, rather than aggressive. Many people tend to primarily operate as either passive or aggressive and fail to utilize the middle ground: assertive. When you are too passive, you are a “doormat”. You let everyone […]

What is Anger? (Anger Management Part 1)

Anger management is a common reason for seeking counseling whether you’re a teen or adult, man or woman, wealthy or just getting by. In other words, it’s a common struggle for Americans and you are not alone. First, anger is not inherently bad. All emotions are important cues to understanding ourselves and responding to our surroundings. Anger can let you […]

Spring Cleaning for Your Emotional Life

Spring Cleaning for your Emotional Life

Spring is a time of new beginnings, growth, hope. It’s also the time of year to clean out the garage and closets, discard what’s broken or obsolete. Perhaps you’ll find some treasures among the junk as well. But when’s the last time you cleaned out your emotional life? Things can pile up in our emotional life as well. Sometimes you’re […]

Book Review Setting Boundaries

Book Review: Where to Draw the Line – How to Set Healthy Boundaries

This post contains affiliate links.   How do you set healthy boundaries? I just finished reading Anne Katherine’s book Where To Draw The Line: How to Set Healthy Boundaries Every Day.   As the title states, it is a guide to setting healthy boundaries in many different kinds of situations. Katherine does an excellent job of explaining what boundaries are. Her […]

Do you need a vacation?

Are you overworked? Are you tired? Is it hard to separate work and personal time? In need of a vacation? From where I sit, the answer is yes. My clients and colleagues work very hard. So, why aren’t you using your vacation time? The Q1 2014 Employment Confidence Survey by Glassdoor reveals that employees are only using 51% of their […]

How to support someone who’s grieving

It can be hard to be around someone who is grieving. They’re likely sad, crying, moody, angry. They may be isolating themselves, drinking too much or engaging in other self-destructive behaviors. There is no “right” thing to say or do that will comfort every grieving person. However, here are a couple of ideas: photo courtesy of freedigitalphotos.net   Talk about […]

How does infertility affect a marriage?

How does infertility affect a marriage? It’s a major crisis for a couple. And one that can persist for years and years. Infertility is the loss of a dream, loss of the future. It creates financial stress. I don’t need to tell you that infertility treatment is expensive. Finances can limit choices. The stress can contribute to lack of connection […]