Tips on setting successful goals

Happy 2014! Here are a few tips for setting successful goals for the new year (or anytime). 1. Take your time and consider what you really want to focus on. It’s OK if you still don’t have goals for 2014. And it’s OK if it takes you several weeks more, as long as you are reflecting and considering. 2. Frame your […]

Anticipating

Did you know that anticipating a pleasurable activity can increase your happiness? Gretchen Rubin, author of The Happiness Project, wrote: “To get the most bang for the happiness buck, I’ve realized that I should complete four stages of reveling in a moment of happiness: anticipate with pleasure, savor the moment as I experience it, express my happiness to myself or others, […]

Necessary Endings

Book Review: Necessary Endings

Book Review of Necessary Endings  review by Sharon Martin, LCSW This post contains affiliate links which means I receive a small commission if you purchase the book through my link. This helps support the blog and costs you nothing.   Necessary Endings: The Employees, Businesses, and Relationships That All of Us Have to Give Up in Order to Move Forward is […]

September

September is the month to draw attention to two causes close to my heart. September is Suicide Prevention Awareness Month. As a therapist and clinical supervisor, of course, I work to prevent suicide every month of the year. My Grandfather committed suicide. My cousin committed suicide. And a very dear client committed suicide. They were all deeply loved. And they […]

What is Codependency? Am I codependent? How do I change codependency?

What is Codependency?

Codependents often grew up in dysfunctional families (often plagued by abuse, addiction, mental illness). Many find a spouse/partner or have a child or other family member that is very troubled and becomes the focus on the codependent’s life.

Basics of Self-Care

Basics of Self-Care

What is self-care? It simply means making yourself a priority. It’s finding things that you like to do, that are relaxing or energizing, and doing them on a regular basis. Self-care is essential for good physical and mental health. I see a lot of therapists, nurses, parents, and adult children of alcoholics (ACOAs) who give and give, but don’t make time for […]

Why You Need A Vacation

Have you taken your summer vacation yet? When was the last time you took a vacation? Vacations are meant to provide rest, rejuvenation, and fun.  Most of us fall short on all of these in this fast-paced world we live in. For many, gone are the days of the work day ending at 5 O’clock. Gone are the days of a weekly day […]

How to fight fair

                    I often tell clients that conflict is unavoidable. It’s natural to disagree at times. However, there are some better ways to manage these conflicts. Some tips on how to fight fair: 1. Stay on the subject at hand. Don’t bring up all of your partner’s past failings. 2. Keep it time […]