What is Codependency? Am I codependent? How do I change codependency?

What is Codependency?

Codependents often grew up in dysfunctional families (often plagued by abuse, addiction, mental illness). Many find a spouse/partner or have a child or other family member that is very troubled and becomes the focus on the codependent’s life.

Basics of Self-Care

Basics of Self-Care

What is self-care? It simply means making yourself a priority. It’s finding things that you like to do, that are relaxing or energizing, and doing them on a regular basis. Self-care is essential for good physical and mental health. I see a lot of therapists, nurses, parents, and adult children of alcoholics (ACOAs) who give and give, but don’t make time for […]

Why You Need A Vacation

Have you taken your summer vacation yet? When was the last time you took a vacation? Vacations are meant to provide rest, rejuvenation, and fun.  Most of us fall short on all of these in this fast-paced world we live in. For many, gone are the days of the work day ending at 5 O’clock. Gone are the days of a weekly day […]

How to fight fair

                    I often tell clients that conflict is unavoidable. It’s natural to disagree at times. However, there are some better ways to manage these conflicts. Some tips on how to fight fair: 1. Stay on the subject at hand. Don’t bring up all of your partner’s past failings. 2. Keep it time […]

I Messages or iMessages

While writing another blog post (coming soon), I was reminded of one of those moments that make you feel really old. Recently, I gave a presentation to my son’s 5th grade class about self-esteem and worry. I suggested the students use “I messages” when communicating. In the world of psychology and therapy, I messages refer to a form of communication that focuses […]

6 Ways to Decrease Anxiety

I see clients struggling with anxiety everyday in my practice. It is one of the most common mental health problems. The good news is, it’s very treatable. Below are some basic ways to reduce anxiety symptoms. 1. Cut down on caffeine (eliminate completely, if you can) – Caffeine is a stimulant that increases anxiety in many people. 2. Exercise – A […]

Are You Sleep Deprived?

Are You Sleep Deprived?

Sleep is an essential part of physical and mental health. I routinely see clients who are sleep deprived to some extent. It seems they fall into two categories: 1) Those that have insomnia and can’t fall or stay asleep and 2) those that don’t prioritize sleep in their schedule.I fall into the second category. Like many of you, I am […]

5 Basic Health Habits

We are all striving to be healthier and happier. Here are 5 habits that will improve your mental health as well as physical health. I suggest focusing on forming one new habit at a time. Look for more to come on each! 1. Get enough sleep. 2. Eat healthy. 3. Socialize and stay connected. 4. Exercise and live an active […]