Codependency

My Wednesday night group has been working on codependency. We have used Melody Beattie’s classic book Codependent No More as our teacher. So, codependency has been on my mind a lot as I guide several clients through their conflicted relationships with alcoholic and troubled spouses, parents, and siblings. On my way home tonight I heard Sara Bareilles’ “King of Anything ” on the […]

Crisis or Opportunity?

This print hangs in my office. Before talking about what it means, a little background. It was given to me by a trusted adviser and fellow therapist: my Mother. This print hung in my mother’s psychotherapy office for 20 years and when she retired, she gave it to me. It was made for her by a Chinese friend. It says […]

Book Review: Self-Compassion by Kristin Neff

I was immediately interested in the idea of self-compassion. I routinely hear my clients being very self-critical. They beat themselves up over large and small things. And often they don’t even know they are doing it. So, a better understanding of self-compassion was in order. I found the book Self-Compassion by Kristin Neff helpful. It is easy to read. Her […]

Wisdom for the year ahead

As the new year approaches, here are 8 bits of wisdom to help make it a great year: 1. Focus on what’s ahead, not on past failures or regrets 2. Take care of your basic needs (sleep, exercise, healthy food, relaxation) 3. Socialize with positive people 4. Remember that challenges are temporary; things will get better 5. Seek emotional support from […]

Remembering

Yesterday I attended a service to remember those who died this year while homeless. 39 men and women were memorialized. The youngest two (in their 20’s) were brothers who I knew briefly through my work at EHC’s youth shelter. Through a sad set of circumstances the older brother died earlier this year and his younger brother died just this month. […]

Thanksgiving

I hope you all enjoyed a wonderful day of Thanksgiving yesterday. I am so grateful for all of you – my courageous clients and supportive colleagues and friends. Let’s continue to practice an attitude of Thanksgiving every day!

What I’m Reading Right Now

I am reading Emotional Freedom by Judith Orloff, MD. I’m about halfway through and have already recommended it two clients who I know will love it. Dr. Orloff taps into spirituality, intuition, and dreams to complement traditional cognitive and behavioral approaches to changing negative thoughts and feelings. I suggest you add it to your reading list, too.