How to get the most out of therapy

  Therapy is a big investment of time and money. We also know it is a lot of work and can have a huge payoff. Here are a few suggestions for getting the most out of therapy.   Keep your appointments: It seems obvious, but many people are inconsistent with their attendance and don’t make therapy sessions a priority. Nothing slows […]

You can control your feelings

I say this often to clients.  Some are surprised; they don’t believe me. Some people are under the false impression that feelings “just happen” and we have no control over them. Actually the way you feel is determined by what you think. And it is very possible to change the way you think. It can be a long process, but […]

Abstinence or Moderation?

Moderation or Abstinence?

I recently enjoyed Gretchen Rubin’s post on the subject of abstinence vs. moderation. Moderation seems to be the most practical, realistic approach to most things. And I am a very practical and realistic person. However, I often struggle with moderation. One of my favorite children’s books is Frog and Toad Together by Arnold Lobel. In the story “Cookies”, Frog and […]

How is the new year going?

We are almost two weeks into the new year. It’s a good time to check-in with yourself. Did you actually write down the goals you have been thinking about? Have you taken any actions toward your goals? Without some accountability from yourself or someone else it is very easy to let the days turn into week and then months without […]

How to Set Effective Goals

It’s the time of year when so many of us are thinking about how to set effective goals for the new year ahead. We know that most people don’t succeed in keeping their new year’s resolutions. Why? If you’re going to achieve a goal, it’s imperative to set yourself up for success. Goals should be: Specific – Be clear on what […]