What is an Avoidant Attachment Style?

What is an Avoidant Attachment Style?

  Approximately 25% of us have an Avoidant Attachment Style.   In my earlier post, What’s my Attachment Style and Why Does it Matter?, I explained the three primary attachment styles (secure, anxious, and avoidant) and how understanding your attachment style can help you have happier and healthier adult romantic relationships.   Securely attached people tend to have happy, long-lasting […]

Coping with Challenging People and Situations During the Holidays

Coping with Challenging People and Situations During the Holidays

  Will you be facing some challenging people or situations as you celebrate the holidays this year? Holiday celebrations can be joyful, but they can also be stressful when we encounter “difficult” people and more demands on our time, energy, and finances. Often there are unspoken expectations or traditions that we feel obligated to participate in, leaving us feeling resentful […]

The Link Between Perfectionism and Codependency.

The Link Between Perfectionism and Codependency

Striving for excellence is a good thing. Perfectionism, however, is an unrealistic and unrelenting expectation that you’ll excel at everything, always do and say the “right” thing, and be everything to everyone. People who struggle with codependency, tend to struggle with perfectionism as well. Perfectionism is one of the ways we try to feel in control and worthy.

What is childhood emotional neglect?

What is Childhood Emotional Neglect?

This post contains affiliate links.   Do you feel empty and disconnected? Do you sense that you’re different than everyone else, but you can’t put your finger on what’s wrong? Childhood Emotional Neglect, a term coined by psychologist Dr. Jonice Webb, is a powerful experience, but one that often goes unnoticed and untreated. In fact, many people who experienced Childhood […]

Guided Meditation to Heal Codependency

Guided Meditation to Heal Codependency

Changing our long-standing thought and behavior patterns can be a long journey. Different approaches work for different people. In my psychotherapy practice, I try to provide a variety of strategies to promote self-care and compassion. For some, a guided meditation, such as this one, can be a helpful tool in healing from codependency and learning to love yourself.   What […]

Why Your Loved One Getting Sober Doesn't Solve Your Problems. Codependents fantasize that their loved one getting sober or treatment will fix or solve their problems or save their marriage

Why Your Loved One Getting Sober Doesn’t Solve Your Problems

  Mary and Dan have been married for 10 years and for nine of them Dan has been done tried everything in his power to help Mary get and stay sober.  He’s driven her to the emergency room, called rehab facilities, participated in the family program at the three recovery programs she’s attended, given her lists of therapists, begged her […]