Negative people deplete your energy Negative people are like “energy vampires”. I first encountered the term energy vampire when I read Judith Orloff’s book Emotional Freedom (affiliate link) a few years ago. No matter what you call them, we’ve all encountered them. Energy vampires are those people who exude negative energy, drain you emotionally, and leave you empty and annoyed. […]
Why are women susceptible to people-pleasing and perfectionism? While people-pleasing and perfectionism aren’t exclusively women’s issues, women are socialized in many cultures to be care takers, put other people’s needs before their own, and be passive. They worry about what other people think of them; they don’t want to displease or be seen as “difficult” or “high maintenance”. […]
Healing shame Shame is a feeling that you’re wrong, bad, unimportant, or unworthy. Shame defines you as “less than” or “damaged”. The terms guilt and shame are often used inter-changeably, but guilt actually refers to a feeling or belief that your behavior is wrong or bad. Shame is a much more painful experience as it’s felt internally as a core […]
Using these 7 simple and mindful strategies can help you reduce rumination and worry. Staying in the present moment, rather than in the future, is an effective way to manage anxiety.
It’s January. You’re back to work and the kids are back to school. It’s time to put a routine in place that supports good mental health and wellness. Many of us plan to set up new routines and develop good habits in January. January feels like a fresh start, so it’s the natural time to recalibrate our habits. Make your […]
Cognitive distortions are also known as thinking errors, thinking distortions, irrational thoughts, distorted thoughts, and negative automatic thoughts. Cognitive distortions are ways that you twist up your thinking to see yourself, your situation, and other people in a negative light. They’re basically your mind playing tricks on you; convincing you that you’re not as good as everyone else, people […]
Free Mental Health Worksheets I’ve created a resource library full of absolutely free mental health worksheets, articles, journal prompts, meditations, and more! These are the self-improvement tools and resources that I’ve put together over decades of work as a therapist and coach. I realized there’s no point in keeping these self-improvement tools exclusively for my clients when they could be […]
“Expectations are resentments waiting to happen.” – Anne Lamott Realistic expectations have the power to make you happier. The holidays don’t feel like the “most wonderful time of the year” for everyone. It’s emotionally difficult to join in holiday celebrations when you’re experiencing grief, strained relationships, infertility, divorce, or difficult family dynamics. The single most important piece of advice […]