Holiday celebrations are an opportunity to get together and celebrate the season with family and friends, but they’re also a source of stress, especially if you are trying to maintain your sobriety. Between conflicts among guests to the stress of planning celebrations or deciding which events to attend when your schedule is double-booked, there are many ways the holidays can […]
How can you use mindfulness to cope with holiday stress? Do you find you’re frequently trying to squeeze more into your day by multi-tasking? Or do you miss pieces of conversations or opportunities to connect because you’re distracted, rehashing the past, or worrying about the future? In an effort to be more productive, we often try to do […]
We need gratitude more than ever. When we’re feeling discouraged, alone, anxious, or angry, it’s hard to be grateful. We know we’re supposed to feel grateful. It’s Thanksgiving-time after all. But you may be having a hard time tapping into gratitude right now. Our country is in turmoil, leaving us with a heaviness that’s hard to shake. Or maybe […]
Fear of Commitment Do you have a girlfriend or boyfriend who won’t commit? If you’ve never experienced this yourself, chances are that you’ve had a frustrated friend who wants to know: “How long should I wait for him to commit?”. I recently contributed to a column on the website Love Evolve and Thrive about how to cope with fear […]
The election is stressing me out! I think we’re all ready for this presidential election to be over. It’s deteriorated into mudslinging, polarization, divisiveness, hate, intolerance, and plain old immaturity. And it seems like it’s getting worse every week. If you’re a highly sensitive person, as I am, you feel things deeply. You’re not only sensitive to criticism […]
What Causes Codependency? Once people recognize that they have codependent traits, they often begin to wonder where these codependent tendencies came from. Why are some people susceptible to codependency in their adult relationships? What causes codependency? Why is it so hard to break free from codependent relationships? While the answers aren’t the same for everyone, for most people it begins […]
We talk to ourselves all day long. We comment, critique, and chastise our every move. From the big to the small – every decision and action gets scrutinized by our inner critic. For most of us, it’s harsh. Much harsher than what we say to anyone else. Where does this negative self-talk come from? Sometimes people tell me it’s […]
Compare and despair: when comparing ourselves to others makes us feel worth. This is so often the case when we compare. Learn to move away from comparison and toward self-acceptance.