Learn to dial back your perfectionism.

Silicon Valley attracts the most creative, hard-working, and innovative people. My clients thrive on setting and achieving high goals. Perfectionism, however, can stand in the way. High standards are great. Unrealistic expectations and self-criticism are not!

Signs of Perfectionism include:

  • Unrealistically high expectations of yourself and/or others
  • Highly critical of yourself and/or others
  • Feeling never satisfied
  • Black and white thinking (I’m smart or I’m an idiot. I’m a success or a failure.)
  • Fear of failure, embarrassment, criticism, rejection, abandonment
  • Feeling never good enough
  • Constantly needing to prove yourself
  • Needing to please others
  • Goal driven
  • Procrastination
  • A need to win at any cost
  • Being a workaholic
  • Shying away from new challenges or anything that you’re not already good at
  • A need to feel in control
  • Difficulty coping with change, spontaneity, or things not going according to plan
  • Irritability

Perfectionism (or a Type A personality) creates tremendous pressure and stress. It often shows up as physical health problems, insomnia, fatigue, and is associated with higher incidences of depression and anxiety. Perfectionism also makes it difficult to create deep connections with others because perfectionists only want to show the perfect aspects of themselves; they struggle to share their imperfections, struggles, and mistakes.

If perfectionism is paralyzing you from making decision or achieving your goals, negatively impacting relationships, stressing you out or fueling negative self-talk, pick up a copy of by book, The CBT Workbook for Perfectionism. It’s available from most bookstores. In it you’ll learn how to overcome perfectionism, bringing balance and happiness back into your life.

Cognitive Behavioral Therapy (CBT) for Perfectionism

Cognitive Behavioral Therapy (CBT) is an evidence-based approach that explains how our thoughts influence our feelings and behaviors. CBT for perfectionism will teach you how to intercept your rigid thoughts about success and failure and your exceptionally high expectations, your feelings of inadequacy, fear, and shame, and your perfectionist behaviors such as procrastinating, overworking, and criticizing. You’ll learn to set more realistic expectations, accept yourself as you are, and meet your mistakes and shortcomings with compassion, allowing you to move forward with gentle accountability rather than harsh self-criticism.

Ditch your rigid, self-critical thinking!

The CBT Workbook for Perfectionism

Do you hold yourself to impossibly high standards, criticize yourself for even the tiniest mistakes, and worry about getting it right?

Find relief with proven strategies based on Cognitive Behavioral Therapy (CBT), mindfulness, and self-compassion.