Are You an Enabler? Understanding Codependency vs. Helping

Codependency isn’t just amplified helping. One of the big misconceptions about codependency is that it’s simply being super, duper nice. It’s true that most codependents are kind and generous to a fault. You typically struggle to say “no” and set limits. As a result, people take advantage of your desire to help. But codependency is much more than this.   Codependency is a […]

Guide to Healthy Holiday Boundaries

The holidays add some extra challenges when it comes to healthy boundaries. As you know, the holiday season means more social commitments, financial pressures, family gatherings, more eating and drinking. You may find yourself over-stressed and off your normal routine of exercising, sleeping, healthy eating and other positive coping activities.

Nice Guy’s Guide to Setting Boundaries with your Ex

Setting Boundaries with Your Ex This is my second post in my Nice Guy series. It is aimed at helping “nice guys” to have happier, healthier relationships and get their needs met. Even though it’s titled Nice Guys, I think many women will relate as well. I work with a lot of “nice guys” in my psychotherapy practice. They tend […]

Nice Guys Guide to Saying No #boundaries #niceguys #Codependency #people-pleaser #sayingno

Nice Guy’s Guide to Saying No

  OK, Nice Guys and Gals, you’ve decided it’s time to learn the art of saying no. Perhaps you’re a bit of a people-pleaser or perfectionist. You can absolutely learn how to say no and not feel bad about it. Saying no is an essential form of self-care. Saying no sets a boundary. Boundaries preserve our physical and emotional well-being and […]

What are Healthy Boundaries?

What are Healthy Boundaries?

  According to Merriam Webster Dictionary, a boundary is “a point or limit that indicates where two things become different”. It is where I stop and you begin. A boundary is a line or space between two people. Healthy boundaries are important to our physical and emotional health. Boundaries provide protection. If boundaries are weak, we are vulnerable. And if […]

Book Review Setting Boundaries

Book Review: Where to Draw the Line – How to Set Healthy Boundaries

This post contains affiliate links.   How do you set healthy boundaries? I just finished reading Anne Katherine’s book Where To Draw The Line: How to Set Healthy Boundaries Every Day.   As the title states, it is a guide to setting healthy boundaries in many different kinds of situations. Katherine does an excellent job of explaining what boundaries are. Her […]