Healing shame Shame is a feeling that you’re wrong, bad, unimportant, or unworthy. Shame defines you as “less than” or “damaged”. The terms guilt and shame are often used inter-changeably, but guilt actually refers to a feeling or belief that your behavior is wrong or bad. Shame is a much more painful experience as it’s felt internally as a core […]
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4 Ways to Curb Negative Self-Talk and Learn to Treat Yourself Better
We talk to ourselves all day long. We comment, critique, and chastise our every move. From the big to the small – every decision and action gets scrutinized by our inner-critic. For most of us, it’s harsh. Much harsher than what we say to anyone else. Where does this negative self-talk come from? Sometimes people tell me it’s very […]
New Counseling Office in Campbell
Welcome to my new counseling office in Campbell! I’ve moved my psychotherapy practice about a mile down the road from San Jose to Campbell. The new office is light and bright and much bigger. I’m excited to share this upgraded space with you! My therapy office is now located at 901 Campisi Way, Suite […]
How to Create Lasting Change through Therapy
After 20 years as a therapist, I know a few things about how to promote lasting change through therapy. I wrote a post called How to Succeed in Therapy and another one called How to Get the Most Out of Therapy. But there are still a couple things worth emphasizing if you’re serious about changing. I like to set realistic expectations when I […]