Jill feels overwhelmed. Jill has been working 12-hour days all week. She’s barely seen her son, let alone spent any quality time with him, which leaves her feeling guilty. Her 11-year-old is nagging her to have three friends over to watch a movie on Friday night, but Jill is exhausted. It’s Mother’s Day weekend and she still hasn’t gotten […]
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Nice Guy’s Guide to Setting Boundaries with your Ex
Setting Boundaries with Your Ex This is my second post in my Nice Guy series. It is aimed at helping “nice guys” to have happier, healthier relationships and get their needs met. Even though it’s titled Nice Guys, I think many women will relate as well. I work with a lot of “nice guys” in my psychotherapy practice. They tend […]
Perfectionist Habits
I recently wrote an article for Psych Central titled The Top 10 Confessions of a Recovering Perfectionist. In it, I revealed ten of my perfectionist habits. I’ve worked long and hard on overcoming perfectionism. And I still continue to challenge that negative internal voice that says “it’s not good enough”. I’ve learned to let go of a […]
Nice Guy’s Guide to Saying No
OK, Nice Guys and Gals, you’ve decided it’s time to learn the art of saying no. Perhaps you’re a bit of a people-pleaser or perfectionist. You can absolutely learn how to say no and not feel bad about it. Saying no is an essential form of self-care. Saying no sets a boundary. Boundaries preserve our physical and emotional well-being and […]
What are Healthy Boundaries?
According to Merriam Webster Dictionary, a boundary is “a point or limit that indicates where two things become different”. It is where I stop and you begin. A boundary is a line or space between two people. Healthy boundaries are important to our physical and emotional health. Boundaries provide protection. If boundaries are weak, we are vulnerable. And if […]