If I show you my flaws….

If I showed you my flaws If I couldn’t be strong Tell me honestly, would you still love me the same? (from Locked Away by Rock City, featuring Adam Levine) If I show you my flaws, will you still love me? That’s really what we’re all afraid of, isn’t it? If I’m not perfect… If I make a mistake… If […]

Are you a Sleep Procrastinator?

I often stay up too late. There is always one more email to write, one more dish to wash, one more episode of Parenthood to watch. Like a lot of parents, I crave some time to myself after the kids go to bed. I am a sleep procrastinator. I wasn’t actually aware that sleep procrastination is a “real thing” until I […]

The Deadly Side of Perfectionism

I am pleased to introduce you to Carolyn Ferreira, Psy.D. She has written a fantastic guest blog for us about the link between perfectionism and suicide. I met Carolyn online and was immediately drawn to her insightful posts and our shared interest in overcoming perfectionism.   Carolyn Ferreira, PsyD, is a Licensed Clinical Psychologist, author, and mental health blogger. She […]

Embrace Your Imperfections and Thrive

Embrace your Imperfections and Thrive by Sharon Martin, LCSW Does it sound counter-intuitive to embrace your imperfections and thrive at the same time? I think embracing your imperfections is actually key to thriving. One of my all time favorite quotes from Carl Rogers speaks to this idea: “The curious paradox is that when I accept myself just as I am, then […]

10 Signs you are a Perfectionist

  Perfectionism can be a serious barrier to success and happiness at work and in personal relationships. We might think having high standards is a good thing. However, perfectionists are so harsh and rigid in their thinking and behavior that it can become a problem. Here are 10 signs you are a perfectionist to help you get started. High expectations […]

10 Simple Tips to Deal with Perfectionism

10 Simple Tips to Deal with Perfectionism

Striving for excellence is a good thing. Perfectionism, however, is an unhealthy and unrelenting expectation that you’ll excel at everything, you’ll never fail or make a mistake, that you’re flawless.  When you expect the impossible from yourself and others, you’re bound to be unhappy. When you expect yourself to be perfect, you make your self-worth contingent upon your accomplishments. This […]

Is Perfectionism bogging you down?

High standards are great. Sometimes, however, we are so rigid in expectations for ourselves that we get bogged down. Needing to be perfect isn’t an asset. Perfectionism can: Impede efficiency – we spend so much time doing and re-doing, seeking perfection, that we waste a lot of time and things don’t get done Keep us stuck – sometimes we don’t do […]