Let go of good girl syndrome, perfectionism, and people-pleasing and rediscover yourself! Be a good girl. Do as your told. Don’t talk back. Wait your turn. Don’t make trouble. Just sit here and be quiet. Smile and look happy. Don’t make your father angry. Where are your manners? How many times have you been told to be “good girl” or […]
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Why Do Some Adult Children of Alcoholics Become Workaholics and Perfectionists?
Why do some adult children of alcoholics become workaholics? “Work first. Play later.” That’s the motto Elizabeth grew up with. It was hard for her to relax and enjoy things when there was work to be done, a project left unfinished, or something still on her to-do list. She was more comfortable working than having fun. Play and rest just […]
7 Ways to Stop Being a Control Freak
Most people appreciate the advantages of an efficient routine and having things go according to plan. But some of us get highly stressed, upset, or angry when life takes an unexpected turn – whether it’s an accident on your way to work or something as minor as your kids leaving a big mess in the kitchen. Yes, some of […]
How to Use Mindfulness to Stop being a Perfectionist
Perfectionism can make it hard for you to enjoy your life. Are you ready to stop being a perfectionist and start enjoying your life? Do your exacting standards and quest for perfection actually get in the way of happy and fulfilling relationships and experiences? Perfectionism is an unhealthy and unforgiving striving for achievement. Perfectionists want things to be […]
Rearranging the dishwasher and other signs you are a control freak
Are you guilty of rearranging those dirty dishes in the dishwasher? Well, I am too. We all know there is only one proper way to load the dishwasher. And it’s your way! If you rearrange the dishwasher, you may be a control freak. I use the term “control freak” loosely to mean anyone who has particularly high standards and wants […]
Perfectionist Habits
I recently wrote an article for Psych Central titled The Top 10 Confessions of a Recovering Perfectionist. In it, I revealed ten of my perfectionist habits. I’ve worked long and hard on overcoming perfectionism. And I still continue to challenge that negative internal voice that says “it’s not good enough”. I’ve learned to let go of a […]
Nice Guy’s Guide to Saying No
OK, Nice Guys and Gals, you’ve decided it’s time to learn the art of saying no. Perhaps you’re a bit of a people-pleaser or perfectionist. You can absolutely learn how to say no and not feel bad about it. Saying no is an essential form of self-care. Saying no sets a boundary. Boundaries preserve our physical and emotional well-being and […]
Embrace Your Imperfections and Thrive
Embrace your Imperfections and Thrive by Sharon Martin, LCSW Does it sound counter-intuitive to embrace your imperfections and thrive at the same time? I think embracing your imperfections is actually key to thriving. One of my all time favorite quotes from Carl Rogers speaks to this idea: “The curious paradox is that when I accept myself just as I am, then […]