Learn how to end self-criticism and replace it with self-acceptance! I’m an idiot. What’s wrong with me? I can’t believe I did that – again! I look so fat in these jeans. Why am I so careless? I’m never going to figure this out. My inner-dialogue used to sound a lot like this. And I know, I’m not […]
Tag Archives: self-compassion
Moms Deserve Self-Compassion
Motherhood is a blessing. It was a long and difficult journey for me to become a mother and I’m so grateful for the opportunity to mother my three not-so-little-ones. But being a mother is hard. Really hard. And we make it harder by setting impossibly high standards for ourselves. In May we celebrate Mother’s Day in the United States. May […]
Shouldn’t I Be Over My Painful Childhood by Now?
“Why is my childhood still affecting me? Shouldn’t I be over it by now?” Amy, aged 37, asked me at her first therapy session. “I feel like I’m complaining,” she said ashamedly. “I’m sure other people have bigger problems — real problems. I feel silly coming to therapy to talk about getting over painful childhood experiences from twenty years […]
Why You Need a Self-Love Practice (and How to Get Started)
What is self-love? There’s a lot of talk these days about self-love. It sounds great, but what does it actually mean? How do we love ourselves – and why does it matter? Self-love means that you accept yourself fully, treat yourself with kindness and respect, and nurture your growth and wellbeing. Self-love encompasses not only how you treat yourself but […]
Why Being a “Good Girl” Isn’t Always a Good Thing
Let go of good girl syndrome, perfectionism, and people-pleasing and rediscover yourself! Be a good girl. Do as your told. Don’t talk back. Wait your turn. Don’t make trouble. Just sit here and be quiet. Smile and look happy. Don’t make your father angry. Where are your manners? How many times have you been told to be “good girl” or […]
12 Essential Tips for Overcoming Perfectionism
This post contains an affiliate link. Do you have unrealistically high expectations? Do you expect perfection from yourself and others? Are you frequently disappointed that things don’t go as planned? Are you exceptionally hard on yourself? Do you feel like no matter what you do, it’s never good enough? These are all signs of that perfectionism. Perfectionists […]
Free Mental Health Worksheets and Tools
Free Mental Health Worksheets I’ve created a resource library full of absolutely free mental health worksheets, articles, journal prompts, meditations, and more! These are the self-improvement tools and resources that I’ve put together over decades of work as a therapist and coach. I realized there’s no point in keeping these self-improvement tools exclusively for my clients when they could […]
How Parents and Teens Can Embrace Imperfection
I recently had a wonderful conversation with Nicole Burgess, LMFT, the host of the Launching Your Daughter Podcast, about ways parents and teens can embrace imperfection.