End self-criticism and learn self-acceptance

End Self-Criticism and Learn Self-Acceptance

Learn how to end self-criticism and replace it with self-acceptance!     I’m an idiot. What’s wrong with me? I can’t believe I did that – again! I look so fat in these jeans. Why am I so careless? I’m never going to figure this out. My inner-dialogue used to sound a lot like this. And I know, I’m not […]

childhood trauma, adult children of alcoholics, and self-worth

What Every Adult Child of an Alcoholic Needs to Know About Self-Worth

    Children who grow up in alcoholic, dysfunctional, or abusive families often feel inadequate, defective or broken; and these feelings don’t magically disappear when they grow up and leave home. Feelings of inadequacy stick with us – plaguing many Adult Children of Alcoholics (ACAs) or Adult Children of Dysfunctional Families with a lack of self-worth.   Why do some […]

Let go of Good Girl Syndrome and people-pleasing #goodgirl #peoplepleasing #perfectionist #ACA

Why Being a “Good Girl” Isn’t Always a Good Thing

Let go of good girl syndrome, perfectionism, and people-pleasing and rediscover yourself! Be a good girl. Do as you re told. Don’t talk back. Put others first. Wait your turn. Don’t make trouble. Be quiet and look pretty. Don’t ask for anything or ask Be on your best behavior. People are watching. Don’t embarrass me. Selflessness is a virtue. No one […]

Codependency and Perfectionism

3 Keys to Recovering from Codependency and Perfectionism

  “I’m so busy being a wife, mother, daughter, and nurse that I don’t even know who I am anymore. I’m always taking care of others and trying to keep them happy. I’m not even sure what I like, believe, and value.” “I’m really self-critical. It’s hard for me to accept compliments. I dwell on my mistakes and imperfections.” “I […]

The Link Between Perfectionism and Codependency.

The Link Between Perfectionism and Codependency

Striving for excellence is a good thing. Perfectionism, however, is an unrealistic and unrelenting expectation that you’ll excel at everything, always do and say the “right” thing, and be everything to everyone. People who struggle with codependency, tend to struggle with perfectionism as well. Perfectionism is one of the ways we try to feel in control and worthy.

How Women Can Overcome People Pleasing and Perfectionism

How Women Can Overcome People-pleasing and Perfectionism

    Why are women susceptible to people-pleasing and perfectionism? While people-pleasing and perfectionism aren’t exclusively women’s issues, women are socialized in many cultures to be care takers, put other people’s needs before their own, and be passive. They worry about what other people think of them; they don’t want to displease or be seen as “difficult” or “high maintenance”. […]

My Boyfriend Won't Commit by Sharon Martin, LCSW

My Boyfriend Won’t Commit

Fear of Commitment Do you have a girlfriend or boyfriend who won’t commit? If you’ve never experienced this yourself, chances are that you’ve had a frustrated friend who wants to know: “How long should I wait for him to commit?”.   I recently contributed to a column on the website Love Evolve and Thrive about how to cope with fear […]