When Life Feels Out of Control Coping with Uncertainty

When Life Feels Out of Control, Focus on Yourself

  Sometimes, life feels out of control. The future is uncertain. We’re not sure how to cope.   Most of us like to feel in control. We like things to be predictable. We like it when we can plan something and make it happen. We like it when other people do what we want them to do. We like things […]

Coping with Insomnia, Stress, Anxiety, Uncertainty

Insomnia During Times of Stress, Anxiety, and Uncertainty

Many people are experiencing insomnia due to stress, anxiety, and uncertainty.   Insomnia, trouble falling or staying asleep, is a common symptom of stress or anxiety. So, it’s no wonder that so many of us aren’t sleeping well as we’re faced with growing coronavirus cases, a high-stakes election and divided nation, fire season in California, and a multitude of other […]

How to Journal to Reduce Stress and Anxiety

Journal to Reduce Stress and Anxiety

  Everyone experiences stress – the tension and pressure of too many demands on our time and resources (both emotional and material). And even if you don’t meet the clinical criteria for an anxiety disorder, I’m sure you’ve experienced some of the most common symptoms of anxiety from time to time: uncontrollable worry trouble concentrating insomnia rumination or obsessive thoughts […]

A Therapists' Tips for Coping with Coronavirus Anxiety

Tips from a Therapist for Coping with Coronavirus Anxiety

  Life feels scary and out of control for a lot of us due to the coronavirus outbreak. Our normal activities are disrupted. People are panic shopping. Schools are closed. Things are changing quickly and that’s disconcerting. We don’t know what to expect because we’ve never experienced anything like this before. In an effort to help you calm your anxiety […]

Stop being a control freak and calm your need for control #controlfreak #anxiety #control #codependency #stress #perfectionism

7 Ways to Stop Being a Control Freak

  Most people appreciate the advantages of an efficient routine and having things go according to plan. But some of us get highly stressed, upset, or angry when life takes an unexpected turn – whether it’s an accident on your way to work or something as minor as your kids leaving a big mess in the kitchen. Yes, some of […]

Journal Prompts to Relieve Stress and Anxiety by Sharon Martin, San Jose therapist and counselor

15 Journal Prompts to Help Relieve Stress and Anxiety

Everyone experiences stress – the tension and pressure of too many demands on our time and resources (both emotional and material).   Even if you don’t meet the clinical criteria for an anxiety disorder, I’m sure you’ve experienced some of the hallmark symptoms from time to time: uncontrollable worry trouble concentrating insomnia rumination or obsessive thoughts muscle tension stomach aches, […]

Boundaries The Solution for Feeling Overwhelmed

Boundaries: The Solution for Feeling Overwhelmed

  Jill feels overwhelmed. Jill has been working 12-hour days all week. She’s barely seen her son, let alone spent any quality time with him, which leaves her feeling guilty. Her 11-year-old is nagging her to have three friends over to watch a movie on Friday night, but Jill is exhausted. It’s Mother’s Day weekend and she still hasn’t gotten […]

Coping with Challenging People and Situations During the Holidays

Coping with Challenging People and Situations During the Holidays

  Will you be facing some challenging people or situations as you celebrate the holidays this year? Holiday celebrations can be joyful, but they can also be stressful when we encounter “difficult” people and more demands on our time, energy, and finances. Often there are unspoken expectations or traditions that we feel obligated to participate in, leaving us feeling resentful […]