Do you prioritize your needs? Or are you so busy taking care of everyone else that there’s no time and energy left for you? Well, you’re not alone! Lots of us are stretched to the max. And if you have codependent traits, you may find it extra hard to prioritize self-care. Perhaps you’re happy to take care of everyone else’s […]
It’s January. You’re back to work and the kids are back to school. It’s time to put a routine in place that supports good mental health and wellness. Many of us plan to set up new routines and develop good habits in January. January feels like a fresh start, so it’s the natural time to recalibrate our habits. […]
Cognitive distortions are also known as thinking errors, thinking distortions, irrational thoughts, distorted thoughts, and negative automatic thoughts. Cognitive distortions are ways that you twist up your thinking to see yourself, your situation, and other people in a negative light. They’re basically your mind playing tricks on you; convincing you that you’re not as good as everyone else, people […]
We talk to ourselves all day long. We comment, critique, and chastise our every move. From the big to the small – every decision and action gets scrutinized by our inner-critic. For most of us, it’s harsh. Much harsher than what we say to anyone else. Where does this negative self-talk come from? Sometimes people tell me it’s very […]
Welcome to my new counseling office in Campbell! I’ve moved my psychotherapy practice about a mile down the road from San Jose to Campbell. The new office is light and bright and much bigger. I’m excited to share this upgraded space with you! My therapy office is now located at 901 Campisi Way, Suite […]
14 ways to be happier in 2016. This article provides straight-forward strategies to increase your happiness and create a happy, healthy life in the new year.
After 20 years as a therapist, I know a few things about how to promote lasting change through therapy. I wrote a post called How to Succeed in Therapy and another one called How to Get the Most Out of Therapy. But there are still a couple things worth emphasizing if you’re serious about changing. I like to set realistic expectations when I […]
I recently wrote an article for Psych Central titled The Top 10 Confessions of a Recovering Perfectionist. In it, I revealed ten of my perfectionist habits. I’ve worked long and hard on overcoming perfectionism. And I still continue to challenge that negative internal voice that says “it’s not good enough”. I’ve learned to let go of a […]